Dear Mary: My life is slipping away and I fear I'm going to be left on the shelf
“Mary, at what stage do I accept that I will be a forever singleton? I'm a woman in my early thirties with a good job, I own my house, have a good personality and a fairly hectic social life at times. However, while I feel like I have the world at my feet, I have always felt that I have failed in my love life.”
Mary replies : What an amazingly honest letter and I'm sure many other female readers in their thirties are nodding their heads in agreement. Because it can be difficult out there in the singles world, particularly when lots of your friends are getting married and having children and it hasn't happened for you yet. As the daughter of a friend who is in her early forties and recently married, remarked to me just before the wedding "I had to kiss an awful lot of frogs before I met my prince"!
Good for you for exploring all the different avenues open to you and I am sorry that none of them have worked out. Any rejection must bring back memories of your first love and the break-up, so some of these experiences will have been particularly difficult for you.
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